There are several manifesting ways of the individual’s personal development. It has different meanings based on the life circumstances of every individual. Working for personal growth consists of overcoming emotional, psychological, or/and background obstacles.
Personal Growth Counseling will help us to grow and leave behind past attitudes, which kept us stuck in one place rather than moving ahead in our lives. And it keeps us vibrant and alive, boosts our self-confidence, and encourages us to do new things.
It will become possible to move forward and grow when you discover how to see things from another perspective. We all occasionally fall into chronic situations and perspectives, which create suffering. Moreover, we cannot see others’ perspectives, think about new ideas, or create movement from them.
We are unable to see the solution to a problem that looks to be existential. There is a way; By finding new meanings and changes to the behavior, we can change how we feel about someone else, ourselves, and the future. There are many ways to achieve it. Here, we will focus on a particular way to achieve personal change.
What is it like to work towards Personal Growth Counseling?
Gain the ability to identify areas of your life that you want to focus on for growth. You may point out these aspects because you are unsatisfied with your current self and want to improve. Self-development goals usually relate to the following:
● Health, Exercise & Nutrition
● Mental health (i.e., depression, anxiety, anger)
● Family relationships
● Self-Confidence
● Career: Dissatisfaction with the current state of one’s career
● Education: degree or program change request
● Personal relationships: friendships, romantic relationships
What Is A Personal Growth Counseling Plan?
For busy professionals, self-development can mean spending time on activities that make them feel alive and refresh their energy, rather than the grief that comes with being overwhelmed by deadlines and demands. Examples include spending time in nature, exercising or meditating, or visiting with friends.
For the bereaved, they are finding new meaning in their loss, internalizing good memories of loved ones, building relationships with others, and feeling entitled to re-energize and joy after the loss can happen.
Mentally ill people may live their lives based on their values rather than the effects of mood swings or dysfunctional behavior. Goals could include turning yelling at family members into a walk or being more compassionate without being aggressive.
The self-development plan consists of five steps.
1. What are your goals? What do you want to achieve?
For example, I want to stop being on autopilot and have more time to enjoy life. My goal is to be present in busy schedules and daily responsibilities.
2. What is your current situation concerning your goals?
Are you currently doing or not doing anything in these aspects?
Take our example. I’m busy at work, come home exhausted, and don’t have the energy to play with my children. I don’t see my friends often and feel lonely. I am very busy with work and feel restless.
Where do you want to see yourself? What would you instead do, how often, with whom, when and how?
3. Be sure to spend at least 30 minutes a day playing with children
4. Spending 30 minutes walking every day is also very important
5. Make time for friends and schedule coffee or lunch with a friend twice a week.
6. Take 20 minutes out of your busy schedule for meditation every day.
Identify a few small steps to move forward toward the goal.
Here, we are going to discuss a few examples of steps you can take toward your goal (of playing with your children):
- Choose an activity that you both can enjoy.
- Tell them that you will play with them for just five minutes today.
- You should leave your work ten minutes early.
- Set your routine to play with your kids before bath and after dinner.
You can plan to increase your steps daily, once a week, twice a week, or as often as you feel is realistic for you. If you intend to start something new in your life, start with less time, but do it daily, increasing the time as the days go by, which will be easy for you. By practicing the new activity every day, you will usually find it much easier than the first day. This method can be used for any activity you want to start: study, exercise, work, etc.
GOALS:
The Goals must be smart. And Smart stands for:
S → Specific > Have a play of 30 minutes every day with my children (one at a time).
M→ Measurable > 30 minutes within a day up to the end of the month.
A→ Achievable > Are you able to accomplish this change within 14 days, OR do you require 30 days in order to adjust the schedule? Have the plan to achieve success. It is not bad to be slow, but sure.
R→ Realistic > Are you willing to devote 30 minutes daily to your kids? If it is impossible for you, then give 10 minutes daily.
T→ Time Limited > Are you looking for thirty days and seeing how it is going? You may want to try any different way of bonding with your kids and take them out two times a week. Moreover, you can also create any special family tradition for dinner, like discussing what made them happy throughout the day.
If you want to work on personal growth, then you have to work on it. You have to get started by recognizing the areas of your life where you can do better by your own values and standards. Set your goals. You may have aims/goals for your life’s different areas, for example, free time, career, family relationships, etc.
Then you have to define them through the SMART goals plan. And you will need to plan a chain/sequence of steps to get from where you are right now and where you are looking to be. Take one step at a time. Enjoy your personal growth. Good Luck!
Until next time,
Luna
